The first weeks of a new school year are full of excitement—fresh supplies, new classrooms, and the chance to make friends. But for children in foster or kinship care, these transitions can bring added layers of anxiety. New teachers, unfamiliar routines, and the uncertainty of change may feel overwhelming. As caregivers, there are ways we can make the start of the school year a little smoother and a lot more supportive.
Help Them Prepare
Recognize the Signs of Stress
Every child responds to transitions differently. Some may seem eager to dive in, while others show signs of worry or hesitation. For kids in care, stress can show up as stomachaches, trouble sleeping, mood swings, or even behavior that looks like defiance. Remember that these reactions are often expressions of anxiety, not disobedience. A little extra patience and reassurance can go a long way.
Prepare Together
If possible, attend back-to-school events like open houses or meet-the-teacher nights. Walking through the building, seeing the classroom, and meeting the teacher in advance can ease a child’s worries. If in-person visits aren’t an option, talk about what they might expect and look at pictures of the school online. Even small things—like practicing the morning route or packing the backpack the night before—help build familiarity.
Create Predictable Routines
Consistency gives children a sense of safety. Establish regular morning and bedtime routines, as well as a set time for homework and winding down. Simple steps like laying out clothes, setting out breakfast dishes, or reading together at night can help kids feel grounded during times of change.
Support Them All Year
Stay Connected With Teachers
Share what you can with teachers about your child’s needs, while respecting their privacy. A quick note or email explaining that your child is adjusting to a new home or has been through changes can help teachers respond with understanding and patience. Teachers are valuable partners in supporting your child’s emotional and academic success.
Encourage Expression
Create space for your child to share how they’re feeling. Some kids open up more during a walk, a car ride, or while doing an activity together rather than sitting face-to-face. Remind them that it’s normal to feel nervous about change. Encourage simple coping strategies, like taking deep breaths, journaling, or keeping a comfort item in their backpack.
Celebrate Small Wins
Starting a new school year can feel like climbing a mountain. Celebrate even the small steps—making it through the first day, finishing an assignment, or joining a new group. Praise their effort, not just the outcome, to build confidence and resilience.
Transitions aren’t always easy, but with encouragement, structure, and patience, kids in care can begin the school year feeling supported and hopeful. Your steady presence reminds them that no matter what changes come, they don’t have to face them alone.
If you are not currently caring for children in foster or kinship care, you can still make a difference. Visit our website to learn how you can provide resources or encouragement to foster families in your community. GET INVOLVED
